Addicted to Mediums
I have been giving readings for years and one thing I have realized is that no matter how long some one has been passed, we still want them around us. For the first few months or even years, we can still feel their presence, we will still get signs that they are still around us. Yet over a period of time those signs often become less and less. Meeting them in your dreams become less frequent and your signs, no matter how subtle may no longer be as strong.
It's hard enough to loose the physical presence but when this starts to happen we feel like it's a bereavement all over again. We want it so badly, we crave it. We seek mediums like myself who can communicate, but we don't have the magic telephone ... connection to the spirit world, is Bill, Mary's husband there please...? It's not like that unfortunately. Many people who I have come across become addicted to Mediums. We crave communication from our loved ones. Especially if there are decisions to make in life that they would have made for you.
But what we have to remember is not only do we have to be strong and move on with our life, but they also have to move on, away from the earth plane, once they have learnt the lessons that they had to learn and then progress through the spiritual realms. That is why you are not feeling them so much or seeing the signs so frequently. They move on. They revert back to the spirit personalities and lives that they have lead in the spirit world before.... just like we will when we return back.
Think of being born and living the life we are leading as a vacation. We are only here for a short period of time and then we go home.
It's easy to become addicted to Mediums, because we have a way of communicating with your loved ones. it's easy to become addicted to Psychics as we have a way of giving you insight in to the future. But what we have to realize is whether we need a loved one to help us with a decision or a psychic to help us with the pathway we should follow... just remember the answer is always with in US. If we search within us, we know the answers. They are there!
Allow your loved ones to move on just as they are allowing you to move on, our lives are pre-destined and we have to accept this. But remember they will always be there waiting for you when it's your time to return home!
Charlie is very much on the mend... ice cream works wonders!
With love
Lisa
Lisa Williams
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Dear Lisa
I totally agree with you that you cannot "tap" in and out into the sprit world whenever you feel the urge to talk to your loved ones. I am fully aware that they also have to move on. And I certainly would not want my loved ones to be "trapped" because of me not able to let go! I talk to their pictures everyday just asking for some reassurance that they are allright. Sadly I'm not gifted to notice any signs or don't have the feeling that they are still with me. They do not even come into my dreams, and that makes me very sad. I was extremely close to both my parents and that is why I want to know if they are allright. Just to be sure of that would lift a great burden of my shoulder so that I could give their loss a place(I still haven't come completely to terms with it) and live my life to the full as they would have wanted!
I'm glad Charlie is doing alright! It is always so nerveracking when your child needs an op! Even when it is just routine. You would swop places if you could. At least I always had this feeling everytime my boy was sick or needed to go to hospital(still do sometimes and he's 25 now!!! :-)
Lisa keep up the good work! You are much appreciated by all of us on this board!
Lots of love and hugs
LindaDB
Belgium
Wow - Again.
Thanks for sharing, I learnt alot. Im learning more and more.. Thank you :)
I understand this. Thank you for telling us :)
SO happy about Charlie!!!
Im with Linda :) Much Much appreciated!!
We love you!
XOX BIG HUG
I was just thinking about this subject yesterday. We had a fantastic reading from our son this week for the first time and it lifted us up so much words can't describe.
But then I started thinking about if I should schedule another reading in a few months with someone else. I don't want to get in the habit to use readings as a crutch for our grief. And I was thinking that they probably have an agenda over there so we don't want to hold him back from that. Well maybe just one more reading ....... And then we'll look forward to meeting him over there soon.
I never would have dreamed I would be thinking about stuff like this a year ago. Amazing how life changes on you so quickly.
Hi Lisa,
iam glad you talk about it and yes your point off vieuw is so right never get addictet and dont forget to live your life with all the good and bad things and learn because its a beautifull path that we go.
beeing a member off your site is one off them.
thx and grtz from belgium
It is words that you have written straight from your hart just like you have done in this article ,
that remind us there are people out there that are more intrested in our well being than their bank accounts.Giveing advice instead of makeing more appointments.
You are very few and far between , a rare gem, it is my honour to have you as my mentor .
Deepest Blessings
Catori
I am glad your son is doing so well thats great:)
Its amazing Lisa how your posts always seem to make me cry. I am crying right now, because they are always so right. I know I need to let my mom go but its so so hard. She only passed a few months ago but I already dont' feel her with me anymore like I did when she first did. I am so sad about it. Well I know that one day I will be with her again and hopefully I will get on your list to have a reading:) one day
happy day Lisa
deezie
Hi Lisa
My husband passed away nine months ago and your post today helped me to understand many things that has been happening to me.
I still feel his presence but he is never in my dreams. Will the dreams follow later.
Some days I am scared that I will forget his face, his hands, his smell ect.
It is true what you say about becoming addicted to mediums, because you long for that assurance that you are not forgotten and that you are not alone, and that you are still loved by the person you lost.
Thanks for your post today, it meant a lot to me.
I am glad Charlie is fine.
Lots of luck and God bless.
Charmaine from far away South Africa
im glad that charlie is doing so well
thank you for this post, just what i needed it's been almost a year since my dad died, this is just what i needed to hear today, thank you
interesting post... thank you
{{{Hugs}}}
Hi Lisa its interesting that your blog today is exactly what I have been thinking about the last few days. Just yesterday I was talking to my youngest son about the signs and visits we are receiving from Jared. I noticed he kept leaving the lights on so Iasked him Honey don't forget to turn all the lights out before you go to bed and he gave me a look like do I have to, then he says he's been leaving the kitchen light on because he keeps hearing noises in there and I asked what kind of noises and he said like banging around like someone is in there and it scares me!! I said well first we don't have a ghost here or I would already know this for sure--I then said its your brother don't be afraid of him please he won't be around for long we need to enjoy these moments while we have them. He says I know Mom and I feel bad but it freaks me out and he also tells me fter every sign he feels comfort as well so he is confused. I keep trying to explain that Jared as things to do where he is now and cannot continue to visit us forever and I asked him please talk to him and tell him your sorry it scares you but you would still like him to come, for one day he won't anymore.
Okay sorry soo long!!!
Great Post today
Love You
Your post is exactly what I needed today...it is amazing how often what you discuss is so appropriate for me on that day! Thanks for sharing!
Yay, Ice Cream! Go get em Charlie!
Lisa!
You soooo rock, really! I was wondering about this the other day, as I noticed on this site there are a lot of people in need who seem to not do their own metaphysical work, but ask it of others. No offense, we all have times of need, I totally get that, but there have been repeat bloggers who want the next answer and the next...
On the Jaena Moynihan site where I blog, the users there offer suggestions, but often give ideas and wish to hear back as to what each of us has accomplished on our own! We have to strengthen ourselves metaphysically to be the strongest and best for not only ourselves (answer our own questions) but for the world! It's soooo exciting to continue moving up levels and sharing with others.
Don't get me wrong, giving to others is a huge gift, but the biggest gift a metaphysician can give, whether they be a medium, psychic, or other, is to strengthen the gift in someone else so they can move on up themselves. The old analogy about buying food for someone in need or teaching them to grow their own food in a garden. Let's cheer each other on and build each other up! Woooooooohoooooooo you are a fabulous example of that, Lisa! Thanks and thanks to all the wisdom my fellow Brethren has shared, as well, it is truly appreciated and makes me grow stronger everyday. Peace!
Lisa
Thank you for another lovely message.
I'm always one who is wanting to know what is around the corner, a little impatient some would say!
But, as you once told me, you must enjoy the present, you may miss an important message/lesson you are supposed take on from your present situ.
The future is inevitable, that is certian, enjoy the present and continue to stive for your dreams.
All the best
Bal
Hi Lisa, :) Happy to hear little Charlie is doing well!!! . This post today is interesting . I can honestly say .. I have often thought about this subject . While we want so badly to be able to communicate with our loved one's .. now at the present time , we forget we will be with them again , My sister has alway's said "this is but a blink of an eye" . And yes the answere's we seek are within us . I think many of us are here because we have that gut feeling we will be able to develop and grow here sharing and learning from one another .A friend I lost a couple year's ago gave me this poem .. I alway's refer to it when i feel a little down about people i have lost and miss .. MISS ME ~ BUT LET ME GO . Thankyou again for this post ....:) janet
Lisa, as always, spot on.
And to that point, the clairvoyant and medium I consult here has a strict rule of only seeing a client once a year! It's perfect, because it really quells that clutching neediness that is so easy to feel after a really stupendous reading.
I've come to view it as the Christmas letter - you know here in the States especially we send these rambling letters at Christmas that catch up all our distant relatives with what we have been doing. So once a year Them Lot can come in if they want to catch up!
Last summer I had a four hour reading! It was like a huge happy hour! And we're all "good to go" for another year.
That feeling of isolation that's easy to feel - I think that's part of this Earth Experience, and we should embrace it and learn with it. We're not really isolated at all. It's just that we have blinders on right now because of being in bodies.
Hey Lisa, This is a REALLY good topic. I am in a way addicted to mediums and psychics, but I'd say more lately it's an addiction to the fascination of how it works and wanting to develop it within myself. In a way, I do want to get messages from relatives, ect., but I can't hardly even imagine what that would be like coming from a psychic or medium.
A few years back, I went through a time when I didn't believe in anything at all ... I'd learnt more about the evolution theory and at that time evolution and life after death seemed incompatible in my mind. So, one night I prayed to whatever was there, if anything, to please give me some sign. I felt like I was going to go nuts if I didn't know if there was something more than this life. Like a week later my friend Greg told me about EVP. We ended up trying it and for the next year or so we got so many evps ... or what we thought were evps. I admit in the start we probably weren't as scientific as we should've been about like noting background sounds, ect.,. to make sure things were really evps. But we got better about that .. and we still got some cool ones. There is on in particular that says my name "Melissaaa" that I have questioned so much I've drove myself nuts. The thing is when we recorded that one I was recording with my best friend and her kids who had never done evp recording before and they were kindof freaked out about it, so just joking around I was thinking about scaring them and yelling something out. Well, my friend Greg had gotten this what he thought was an evp a few days earlier that said Melissa .. so we had just listened to that one and we were kindof laughing about it cause it sounded weird ... so the thing I was thinking about yelling out was "Melissaa" or something else to make them jump ...lol, but we took a break after recording and when we played it back it says "Melissaaa" ... my rational mind can't understand it .. I know I was thinking of saying that as a joke to scare them, but I don't remember actually saying it - and they say I didn't say it!!! But I can't grasp it cause it's so clear unlike most others. It doesn't sound like me, either. I'd love you to hear it sometime ....Anyway, it's weird, but if it is real...it's probably the clearest evp ever recorded. I think it mightof been this girl who committed suicide just before that .. because here's the weird part - this girl who committed suicide right before that - she never like me cause of some guy ... she was a big trouble maker always fighting and crap ... and get this - her picture showed up in my mom's front yard that morning right before lisa and the kids got there. My mom was mowing the yard and came in with this pic of this girl, Stacey. We were freaked out and wondered if it blew over from someone's house .. or fell out of someone's car, ect. We still don't know and I lost the pic somewhere =((((. But .. another really weird thing is this....Lisa had been having dreams about Stacey and had just recently made good friends with Stacey's mom...then she just happens to show up right after we found that pic. It was like the weirdest day ever, I swear.
But, the other evps...it seemed like they were happening all the time. Life felt so magical and it gave me so much hope. Then, one day, though, it all stopped .. and nothing. So, now I'm like why in the heck would it work so good then but not work now? So, in a way I feel like maybe I imagined alot ofthem? It's weird. I don't know. I remember at the time, I felt like my grandpa was there alot - I thought I got an evp that said "I'm waiting for you." Then it was like he was just gone one day. If I could just get one more I'd be happy and not feel like I'm nuts lol. So, I used to be addicted to that. I got better about it because I just kindof gave up on getting anything and I do have this feeling that if they are there ... they just moved on somewhere.
When my uncle roger was killed in 1999 ... I felt his presence sooo strong for like 3 days. I woke up to knocking on the window the night before his funeral I believe. I was hysterical and crawled to the phone to call 911 and everything (cause the house I was in is out in the country). The thing is though .. in my dream .. Roger was knocking to wake me up to tell me how he was really killed - he was mad about it and pacing back and forth hitting his hand...and my grandma's church friend who was there in the bed with me ... she said she was dreaming that Roger was trying to wake her up so I could tell her something. The thing is I took that so hard and the knocking scared me and made me so hysterical (now I would handle something like that well, I think) .. that the next day I didn't feel Roger's presence anymore. It was like he saw how upset it was making everyone and just decided it was time to let go.
Ok, I'm crying now lol. Gotta stop .. but yea, this can all become addicting. But I think it's true that we can all find signs in our own way if we ask the universe to give them to us, ect. It's always cool to get a sign.
Melissa E
Great blog today, as always.
Funny how the subject of this blog was something that I have been thinking about for awhile now. When I pray I always ask that the ones who passed before me are resting in heaven in eternal peace. Eventhough I pray that prayer, I still long to visit them in my dreams as you wrote.
As I am wrting this, I realized that this is a deja vu for me!
God Bless you and your work,
P.Marcantonio
Wow....very powerful, Lisa and right on as usual. It is like you "read minds"...I have to tease as I am just feeling the tears roll down my face. It explains so much. I didn't want to believe it, and as you know, I kept looking, but I know it's happening. My dad is now completely gone with not even a dream and he is adamant about not wanting to make contact with me as he is "examining" the time he spent here and my mom, even though it's only four months, has moved on as well. Or at least I feel her less and less...I do know the last I "spoke" to her, she was very, very tired, but wanted tell me she liked my red hair! Then, she was blowing me kisses (something she always did in life) and left....so, thank you so much for today's post.....you are just amazing!!!
Hug precious Charlie for me and know how much we love you, too! We are so blessed to have you, Lisa. I think they call it'perspective'...........a beautiful day to you precious girl.
Love to you and yours,
Cynthia
Thanks Lisa, that explains a whole lot!
Glad to hear Charlie is doing better! Lots of hugs for all of you!
Lisa
thank you so much for this blog, I now understand more as I read your words here
all said is true, I have gotten less signs from a loved one that I really wanted to hear from, , she had passed in 1996, and every now and then I get a sign but not like it was a few years ago
it is hard for me to let go, so I keep talking to her
WOW, did you write that for me!!! lol I just had a reading from a medium yesterday and I was disappointed because she was correct, but everything she told me I all ready knew and have seen. I just have to trust what I get more. I don't need to pay an arm and a leg to just get my thoughts and feelings verified. No offense, I know you help many, many people but I mean for myself. But it was a good lesson for me. A $350.00 lesson!!!!
Ann Phillips
Linda....
All I can say is WOW, and Thank You! I felt like your message today was for me. I did have a reading that connected me with my Mom, sister, and brother, all who passed within a short time of one another. I have been thinking that I should have another one, but you are right, ( of course! ) I do need to let them move on. Your words healed me today. Thank you so much. I'm so happy to hear that Charlie is doing well. Ice Cream does work wonders! ( Unfortunately, it has cause HUGE wonders to my hips! ) Blessings to you and your family.
It makes me sad to think that my daughter would go away and never come see me again. I know she has things to do on the other side, things she could not do here. But I always tell her I am still her mom and she needs to remember to check in on me from time to time. I can't imagine her never coming around again. Gina
Lisa,
I am glad to hear Charlie is doing better. It's so hard seeing your little ones go through things like that.
That was a wonderful message today. Thank you for sharing.
I just want to cry when I read your blog. I had a reading with my dad recently and a few of the things he said were that he didn't want to see me (where he is) for a million years and that I had a task to do. He also said he is around me all the time, far more than I can even imagine. Since he wasn't around me in his Earthly life, it is his task where he is now to be there for me now to make up for lost time. So when I read your blog about how they have to move on, etc., I got sad. Because I was excited and planning to have a relationship with my dad as he is now. He's just changed form. He's still my dad. He also said that he ignored his task that he was supposed to do when he was on Earth and he feels guilty. My hope is that his new task, as he said, is to be with me, around me, being a father to me. At least for a few more years. I didn't really have a daddy while he was alive. I feel I have my daddy now and that makes me very happy.
Anyway, I apprecaite your blogs and your messages from beyond. I appreciate your site, Lisa, and have made what I feel could be lifetime friends. My goodness, what a family you have created for us. Thank you!!
With love,
Melinda
PS...so glad to hear Charlie is doing better!!!