Take responsibility!
Sunday, August 9, 2009 at 01:08AM So tonight we were in Tacoma! I had a great show and I have decided to do a straight 2 hour show with no interval... it works better and I get more readings done which is great as I don't have the energy lapse as when I take a break half way, I find I get into things and then break and then I have to try to pick up where I left off... it's not always easy.
I loved being there and so many people came through and everyone created energy and that is the most important thing.
But what I want to comment about today is doing things that you really don't want to face. We all have what my husband calls 'sloping shoulders' when you don't want to face something and you keep putting it off or you get someone else to deal with.
I do it all the time. In fact I am the worlds worst sometimes, but often we HAVE to face things that we don't want to, We have to deal with it. I am not someone who gets angry very often, in fact I am the most laid back person, almost horizonal... but when it comes to people I care about, then watch out! And that has happened recently. I have had to face something that I have been putting off for years. Because I didn't want to hurt the people who were involved.
Sometimes you have to hurt them so that they can realize the extent that they are hurting others... I hate to do it but it was necessary here. I am not sure how they are going to take it, but I know they will come back on the attack, but you have to know that when they do you are standing in the right and you have to stand positive and also be strong to believe in what you are doing and that you are doing it for the right reasons! Maybe I will read this back when I get the reply, after the email I just sent and it will give me the strength to respond.
People have to take responsibility for things, and not palm things off on to other people. You have to be true to your self and real and realise that life is there for the taking and enjoy life but you also have to show that you care for people along the way and not pick up and drop off when you decide. If you are to maintain relationships, you have to put effort in, and that it doesn't come easy.
So know who is important in your life and do something about don't just rely on others to maintain a relationship... they all need work.
Hugs and love and Boise tomorrow!!!
Lisa xx
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Reader Comments (37)
Thank you for sharing so much with all of us who follow you on your blog. Your words always seem to be just right. I wish I could of made your show in Tacoma but I was at your last show in Seattle @ the Moore last year. Even though none of my family came to visit through you it was nice you were able to help those mothers of the boys who were killed. My family must know I know they are around. Thank you again you are such a warm person. Take Care on your tour. Bernadette
Hello ,
Great blog today ...
" almost horizonal " Ha Ha Ha ..
i love it ..
Have a nice day
Thanks for the great show tonight. As always you are a delight and such an amazing person to listen to and learn from. You are so right on, it is sometimes scary. Your blogs continue to inspire me and I am thankful!
God bless,
Joanna
Lisa, Thank you for coming to Tacoma, I was so happy to get to see your show, and though none of my family came through I know they were with me in spirit. You did such a wonderful job, What a gift you have & helped so many people out there tonight. I dont know how you do it. I was exhausted after the reading. But I worked all day to keep a positive energy and keep my relatives whom have past energy up- I think we got tired :)
Taking responsiblity, and staying 'strong', The word' stong', you wrote that on my autogragh pic (which I thankyou so much for), And when you hugged me I came home feeling happier than I have in the longest time. Hoping that your okay. Sounds like you have alot on your plate, and I'll say an extra prayer for you tonight. Hugs , Lisa
My Dearest Lisa ! I have been in the position You are blogging about and can so much recognice every bit You are writing. Thank You so much for sharing and for reminding <3<3<3
Blessings from Liv Christin
It sounds like you did something realy important on another's path of learning, Lisa. Sometimes it is painful to be honest and stand true to what we know is right...yet, people need to hear the truth. I understand about not embracing anger on any sustaining level, but we can all feel it sometimes, especially in matters of justice. I do not retain in or live through it, but occasionally there it is. I imagine it is a tool like every emotion, meant to give guidance in a situation....assuming of course that we have balance and the ability to direct our emotions for the greater good.
Love to you and happy travels!!!
xoxo
Heike
Hi Lisa,
It seems like you are going through a vey difficult time. I am so sorry you have to deal with this kind of emotional turmoil; it wrenches the heart! You really don't need this in your life, but i sounds like you are strong and handling it well. Take care and be good to yourself!
Hugs and Love,
Cheryl
Dearest Lisa, hi, I just came home from my short trip. I like what you wrote about taking responsibility. I get panic attacks whenever I have to do something which I find very hard. On wed morning, a few hours before my flight, I suddenly vomited all my food and had a very sick tummy. I think that it was caused by stress. But I did not have the heart to cancel the trip because my best friend looked sad. I wanted him to have a nice trip so I dragged myself along. I love my best friend. But the sad part is that I spent the trip eating a lot of bread and the only thing that I could drink was water. But as soon as I came home today, I am feeling fine. I think that I get very nervous.
But I was brave and I made it through the trip and I brought home some books to read.
Just dropped by to say hello to you, dear Lisa. In my country, they show your TV show on Thursdays, so I am eagerly waiting to see your next show in three days time.
Thanks for everything that you write and share with us. Have a nice day, Lisa.
with a very loving hug for you, from Chitra :-)
Hi Lisa,
This is happening to me in two relationships currently, and it anin't fun...,, however alot of things aren't. Supose thats what make the good times so Great. Thanks for the reassurance to believe in yourself and for what truly is right in your heart.
MUCH LOVE
Terry
This is a GREAT blog. I absolutely love your message here. Thank you for sharing it. I've been facing some recent trials in my relationships. This certainly helps me in some areas.
Hi Lisa. I have just seen your show for the fist time and it was wonderful. It is so great that you show people that there is so much more to "LIFE" and their souls. I look forward to seeing you when you come to Brisbane, Australia. I've bought a ticket for myself and my wife, and will suprise her. Best of luck and happy travellings - thanks so much for sharing your gift. Remember that you can lead the horse to water, so don't get too upset if you don't get the response you needed from your friend. Cheers and joy, Lee
Hi Lisa! Great blog as usual! This rings so true to me right now and I have found myself in a similar position but at the end of the day if they are true friends they know I have said what I did because I care :)
Have a great day!
Love and hugs Lees xxxxx
Dearest Lisa, I am 53 years old, and believe me, am the most analytical, questioning person around, most definitely to my detriment. For five or six years of my childhood I walked with my three sisters to Sunday School and then Church services. Well, my life of questioning myself began. It sure put the fear of God in me. I started to question and there was that percentage of me that wondered "what if there is nothing?". It scared the living daylights out of me. At the same time I was being molested from a few sources. I felt so bad about myself. This started a pattern and has caused a lot of difficulties for me. I have been trying to forgive myself and live myself ever since. But deep inside I did know I was a beautiful person, with a good heart and wonderful talents, but I never felt the love, I mean really felt it, for myself and I suppose for others (except my precious precious grandchildren, them I love so unconditionally). Then, Lisa, I met you (through your TV shows), and my life changed forever. I said to my hubby, Colin, a few days ago. That you are the warmest, most loving person I have ever in all my 53 years known. I am so hooked on your shows you have no idea. You are medicine for my soul. I cry over and over again. I have started to put together a family journal due to this journey of discovery. I read my book on Daily Guidance from the Angels and it is amazing how the page you open on is exactly what your soul needs. And it's all about love. Loving yourself unconditionally because to not love yourself puts a barrier between you and God. For the first time, I really get it, and it's wonderful to understand. I am on a journey of cleansing my body of things that are unhealthy so that I can be closer to my spiritual side. I have also read your article for "Kids with Gifts". Lisa, I cannot begin to thank you for the joy and peace that you have brought to my life. I would love you to believe 100% in yourself and your decisions, because I so believe in you. I am really worried though because I'm not sure if they are going to bring in more of your shows to sunny South Africa. We've only seen the first two seasons, when you were doing one-on-one's. I have two of those shows recorded for when I need a dose of your medicine. But I'm also enjoying being an "extended family member". I just miss seeing your sunny face and wonderful hugs that you give people. You go forward and do exactly what your heart tells you because I see you as an Earth Angel for sure! Lots of love and blessings, Jeanette (Plettenberg Bay SA)
Thanks for the blog about taking responsibility, which is what I constantly preach to others, to be honest about mistakes and not make scapegoats of others! Our society doesn't support taking responsibility - rather, it is popular to either disregard and avoid it or hold others responsible for mistakes and plights. I know people who do not hesitate to go to extraordinary lengths to avoid being held accountable for a mistake, to the point of scapegoating others. They apparently believe that making a mistake is a horrific act, and they avoid taking responsibility at all costs! I'd love to see a blog about not victimizing others, to not make others appear responsible for one's mistakes. Thanks.
Very Interesting Blog, Lisa!!! Best of luck!!! Safe travels!!! Much Love <3 <3 <3
I think you had to do what you had to do.. it is noble to stand up for others.
Boise will be hard due to the death of that little one whos body they just found, it is a town filled with grief.... i hope the will find comfort
{{{hugs}}}
Wow, Lisa. Great blog! I wish some of my friends could read this, cause some of them really need it.
I am the person who maintains the friendship. Most of my friends are laid back, and know I will take contact anyway. I'm getting really tired of this, but then again...I don't wanna lose them. So I keep on it. I've become more relaxed myself, though. So some of my friends has woken up a bit. But it's still me who maintain most of my friendships. It's kinda exhausting.
And I've tried to tell them to wake up.. but they don't really listen. And I've stopped caring. One day they'll realise I'm gone, and they'll be the ones who's sad...
Thanks again for that blog. xx
Hi my love, Again thanks for the wonderful blog. I am sorry that you have to go through what you go through but you seem to get to the other side just fine. You really amaze me dear with the energy and the knowing that you have for such a young person. Don't ever lose that.
We all have to be responsible for all we do even though their are those that would rather shuffle it off onto sommeone else. But not you my love. Thats what I love so much about you-you take life in your hands and live it to the fullest! You go girlfriend!
Love ya lots, Mary
Hi Lisa,
It sounds like your "Mama Bear" is coming out. I call is my Mama Bear response when I am protecting my family. You seem to be cleaning your house, so to speak,..... a good cleansing of your space is always refreshing... start anew!
I think that if we have any self respect for ourselves and family we will stand up for ourselves when we can. Of course we have to choose which battle and how strongly we are going to take them, but we do have to stand up for ourselves & for what we believe in. No matter how kind and nice we try to be, it does seem as though there is always someone who is willing to be hurtful to us. It is okay to keep those people at a distance, otherwise they will go right on thinking that they can hurt us and others.
You have spoken a lot of friendships. I have learned through experience that if you try to become the type of friend you want to have, you begin to attract those types around you. And when you learn to like yourself, you're okay without the people around you that are hurtful. It's easier to spend time alone when you like yourself, than spending it with people that aren't good for you.
I hope everything works out for you, and you can surround yourself with good, caring people. Good for you Lisa, there is a time in life when we all have to do what you are doing.
Michelle
Hello Lisa,
I'm back from a week of dance training and I just read all the blogs I missed ;-)) so I would have so many comments ;-)
Thank you for this blog. It's true sometimes we have to take decisions, sometimes about friendship or love or else and saying the truth is not always easy...but it's just being honest and true to ourselves ;-) we have to accept it.
It can only be better then.
Lots of love,
Lise
Hey there Lisa,
Great Post! I believe the only place I truly reserve myself is at the office. It is difficult but I learned to separate work from my personal life...not easy but it works.
However, my personal life is a whole different story. I stay true to myself and others regardless of the response. Sometimes it is necessary to give someone a swift kick in their butt. It is called 'tough love'. Of course not everyone needs this but there are times when a lesson is necessary for those stubborn minded folks that we love and care about. I am certainly not a vicious or hurtful person, but I am also not going to 'sugar coat' a situation that is bothering me or affecting a relationship. If you hold back, you are doing yourself and the other person a disservice.
Good for you for addressing it in spite of feeling uncomfortable. Stay true to yourself regardless of the outcome. You can't always be nice about things especially if someone is taking advantage of your kindness...
Love~n~Light,
DS
Hey Lovely Lisa,
What or whom ever is concerned in the above matter you wrote about above...Please know my sword and shield and YOUR troop's here,
are right behind you! You are such a gentle soul, and I understand, as when I do this in & when my situations arise (it takes energy) but..then I have the Justice of my situation.... and I will back you until infinity.
WITH LOVE AND HUGS~
OOOXXX
Charlie, Kev, Max and Lucy kisses to them please. :-)
Hi Lisa, This is my first time on your blog page. Its great. I am so excited to see your show tonight in Boise. I have followed you from the very first show and love them. You are such a sweetheart. I love how open and warm you are to all the people you come in contact with. I think you are absolutely amazing..... I cant wait till tonight. Its going to be so thrilling to see you in person. I kept putting in Boise, Idaho on your web site for future visits, I just never dreamed it would happen. Thank You so much for coming here tonight. Linda
I had a unfortunate event along the lines of what you say, i was wronged by a close friend and the said person does have a harsh personality at times and had made some hurtfull coments that we had let go but on this occasion it was time to voice the hurt and wrong doing. She really didnt like being told of her short comings & wrong doings but it had to be done i got it off my chest and am over it. She however has decided to stew on it and end our friendship....some times you just have to let them go.
Were the ones that should be upset and bearing grudges but from the beginning and even when i told her of the hurtful wrong doing that we would always love them and that as far as im concerned we will always be friends just wont be any further business dealings in future. We fogave her but i guess she cant forgive herself. Life does go on and sometimes friendships run their course and you have to enjoy the good memories from it and leave it at that.
Love N Light
Keith aka THEE YORKY PUDDIN
Hi Lisa,
Saw your show in Tacoma last night. All I can say is Wow! I already knew that you were gifted, but did not know the extent until last night. Your TV show just showed the tip of the iceberg. You also have a beautiful and fun personality. The woman next to my husband was read as well as several people around us. I did not have any expectations of being read, especially since I recently had a reading with another legitimate psychic. Several loved ones came through loud and clear at that time. Since so many around us were read I think my mother was helping usher in spirits. :)
Please come back to Tacoma.
Jean