You can do it! - Drew's Blog
Thursday, August 27, 2009 at 09:38PM I wrote and rewrote this blog over and over because I just couldn't seem to find the words...then it hit me - I'll write about doubt.
I'm no stranger to doubt, so many times in my life I've stopped myself from doing something I wanted to do because I didn't think I could. I often ask myself why does this happen..why does fear set in and prevent me from going forward into something I want?
Well from a human perspective, fear is actually good for your health. Sounds a bit crazy, but the ancestors who did not have a healthy fear of heights, are no longer with us. Those that did, developed the ability to survive and make up our fore fathers.
So since fear, worry, and doubt are inherent to us as humans how do we know when to overcome it and when to listen?
Our minds fill up with doubt and worry when they are trying to protect us and keep us alive. It's hard wired in the brain and will keep you from activities that are too harmful. But, civilization has grown so fast and the brain hasn't quite caught up.
The dangers of the past have been eliminated through progress. So the brain thinks it's protecting us when really it preventing us. If you are faced with a situation in which doubt and worry set in, ask yourself the following, "What's the worst that could happen?"
Really ask yourself this question, 9 times out of 10 the worst will be a minor setback from which to learn. 1 out of 10 may be a situation that you legitimately need to avoid. The trick is to correctly identify which is which and act in spite of doubt.
And that IF the worst actually happens, 9 times out of 10 it doesn't!
Here's where belief comes in. Belief is the absence of doubt, it is the knowing that you can do it, it is the mental position that it can be accomplished. So the achievement of anything worthwhile MUST have belief (no exceptions).
So the next time you are faced with a situation in which you feel doubtful, remember to first ask yourself the question above. Then when you are reassured that nothing terrible could happen, start to think how much you believe in yourself. Say it over and over again in your mind.
I first thought this was silly, until I learned that every successful professional athlete does the same thing! They mentally rehearse FIRST, then take action. And if you do, I can promise you something incredible will happen, the knots of doubt in your tummy will be replaced with a warm sensation and a feeling of confidence that you can do anything you set your mind to...because you believe.
Reflect Love,
Drew
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Reader Comments (15)
Thanks Drew foryour beautiful blog!
I really need to think back to the times where I have doubted myself.
I know that because of this doubt in myself I have prevented myself from doing even the simplist of things.
Doubting in yourself gets us no where and then where are we? Stuck in a rut!!
So why put yourself through all this unnecessary garbage and just believe in yourself and know that you can do anything you set your mind to it.
Thanks Drew for opening my eyes to this whole thing on doubt. We should take it out of our vocabulary. The word doubt could cause a lot of trouble for those of us with a low self esteem. If you do not want to take it out of your vocabulary then try to use it in a positive way!
Love to you all here at Lisa's site!!
Mary
Great post Drew!! I always think now as well that fear and doubt go hand in hand and it is the way you handle the situation to overcome it.When u are an a doubtful fearful position try and welcome it by saying " Well come on do your worst fear!!!" Believe me it sure takes the bite out of it!!!
As you said Drew it takes practice to do this but it is so true " Belief in yourself is the master of all accompishments" wow I just thought up unknowlingly an affirmation lol!!!!
((((((((((( Hugs))))))))))))))
Maureen xxxxxxxxxxxxx
Thanks, Drew, It's an important subject. Living with Uncertainty is a fact of life and we have to have positive ways of dealing with it.
Love,
Lana
Interesting blog Drew, thank you. That's very well put.
Bisous
Lise
Wow Drew, that was exactly what I needed to read. I'm going to print it out and post it so I can see it when I feel fear. It seems to be what I have come into this life to learn to let go of !!
^i^ angel hugs, Jean Maurie
Hi Drew! It's very true that we as human doubt ourselves on many decisions or thoughts. And doubt always makes us pout, and succeeding always plants a seedling or two that makes us see that we can do, what we put our mind too. The feeling of accomplishment enables us to move forward with this wonderful empowerment that helps us and others along the way. But, like you said we have to believe we can do it even when doubt sets into our mind. Thank you so much for your blog, today. Much Love, Jeannine <3 <3 <3
Great blog, Drew!
The mind is such an amazing thing. I have always been intrigued by the way the mind works. Why some can get through the really tough stuff and others struggle .
Believing in yourself and knowing that you can do whatever you need to do is so key to getting through whatever might come your way. If you really want it then you can overcome almost anything. We can will ourselves past all the hurdles if we take them one at a time rather than making a mountain out of all of the things that come along we can look at each as a mole hill.
Our minds can deal with the small stuff but we tend to clump it all together which can make it seem so overwhelming. If you have a goal and you believe in yourself , I mean truly believe in yourself you can get past almost anything if you take each stumbling block one at a time knowing that you can make it.
I say this because sometimes we tend to give up to easily because we allow our minds to let that doubt creep in because of the small stuff that gets in our way.
If it seems that our plate is full and we can't go on, rather than look at each thing on our plate we tend to look at the entire plate as a whole. If we remove one thing at a time from the plate than it becomes easier to manage.
Our mind can catapult us to where we want to be or it can be our worst enemy. We are in control of our thoughts, it is up to us to tell ourselves that we can make it over that hurdle and the next and the one after that to get to that place that we dream of.
Believe in yourself, don't give up!
Oops, guess you can tell that I have strong feelings on this subject..lol
Great blog!!
Hello, excellent blog Drew! How many times I won't go ahead with something because of my self-doubt. Printing this out so I can remind myself every single day that I CAN DO IT!!
Hugs, Judi :)
PS: If I try hard enough can I be like Lisa??? :) :) :) Love that gal!
wow, this is good to read.....! It is so true, I know it and still...... I am a singer/songwriter and with the help of wonderfull musicians I released my first cd in dec 2007, I did not comercialise it, but people tell me to come out into the word with my music, and that sceares me totally the cd (www.coliel.com) has been done very professionally and people tell me that my music and lyrics are healing for heart and soul. So why do I still not believe in myself, why am I still affraid, why do I freeze over when standing in front of people, what is holding me back, I think I am holding myself back.... I wrote my story and question to LISA but I am new on this site and don't really understand the whole site yet, and where to find the answer. perhaps someone can help me. thanks! Love Colette
Wow, that really made me think...
I've never actually thought about it until now, but in the situations I often panic, the worst thing that can happen is something really minor I will probably forget all about in a couple of months.
Thank you so much for bringing this subject up.
I really needed this. :]
I will do my best to remember this the next time I'm in a situation of doubt!
Hi Drew,
Nice to meet you here on Lisa's site.
Thanks for bringing in your inspiration today! I read your blog early this morning but refrained from responding until later. The reason is because I wanted to put what you said into practice before speaking. I did a couple of things today that went against what I was thinking. I hear what you are saying about fear. Sometimes it is scary to move away from our comfort zone. Our thoughts can literally prevent us from living a life of happiness.
Thanks for the blog and stay on the path!
Hugs,
DS
Hello Everyone,
It is now Saturday in Australia and my last blog for Empowerment Week. I hope you like these simple words and can relate to them. I know I certainly can.
My mind is so much stronger than my body
And yet I still fall prey to it;
The slightest ache, or touch of pain
Still send me running to my bed;
If I am crossed
Or accused of wrong –
I cower at such harsh words said;
I’m much too weak -
Why aren’t I strong?
Why do I doubt what I can do?
Do I feel the same as you?
If nothing else – I’ve learned this week
That we all feel the need to share
Our weaknesses and inner fears.
My mind is so much stronger than my body,
But now I’ve learned to stand up tall;
To tell myself what I can do
And throw disdain at fear and doubt!
I’ll not be judged
By negative thought –
Instead I’ll stand and shout it out!
I’ve talents strong
That can’t be wrong!
I will not doubt what I can do
And neither do, I think, will you;
If nothing else – these words this week
Affirm what each of us can share
Our pride and attributes – so rare!
Susanna
Dear Drew, hi, I liked reading your blog. I have a lot of difficulty with doubt. I get panic attacks when I travel. I don't know why. Something about planes and immigration queues. I can try to overcome the panic attacks but it takes a severe toll on my health. ( I end up travelling under so much strain.)
I have been yearning to travel for one of Lisa's shows in Australia. But each time I worry about what the impact of the travel will be like on my health. I don't know if you can understand this type of doubt or fear. I can overcome it but sometimes I think that I love myself too much to put myself through that much anxiety. So I choose to stay back home and let my health and body have a good rest. Yet, my heart feels sad because I really wish to meet Lisa at her show.
It is hard sometimes. Bye to all of you. Take Care.
Drew,
Your blog was not only thought provoking, it touched my soul. I was reminded what an instinctual and powerful emotion fear is. I was also reminded how powerful that "knowing" feeling can be. The feeling you get when you truly believe in something, even when the thought is not supported by any kind of logic. I need to spend more time listening to my heart and soul and less to the fear based chatter in my head.
Thank you!
Robin