The reason why we have planned our trip now, is so that we can attend the wedding of two very dear people who I used to read for. Finally after (I don't know how many years) they are getting married. I saw them through the beginning of their relationship all the way through and now it's great that Kev and I were invited to the wedding.
It's so nice when you see people go from the beginning all the way through, not to the end, but to the point that they were striving for, it's such a great feeling. I know that they are made for each other and we will be heading down to the wedding tomorrow ready for the big day on saturday!
Its' great that they have a happy ending, but it's not always an easy ride. Relationship aren't. Whoever put the thought into my head that as soon as you get married it's easy... well they need sense knocking into them. I'm sure thats what everyone believes. But in fact I feel you have to continue to try. Just like any relationship, even friendships. It's give and take.
Kev and I have had our tough times as have most people. Its never plain sailing, you get stuck in ruts and the the 'rules' change (if there were any rules anyway) but it changes.
Some people are ready to change in a relationship and then there are others that are not willing to change, and if they are together as a couple then you will find that they drift apart. Fortunately I have a hubby who is more open to change than I am... and thats saying something so I am very lucky but it's not easy.
I know that there are too many people ready to give up their relationships/friendships before even trying, but for me it's a commitment that I will flog until the end... I'm not sure why I am writing this because Kev and I couldn't be happier. We are a family built on trust, and we all have a great relationship which also includes Charlie. We are a family and bond that at the moment (and hopefully never) I can't imagine breaking.
I see it so many times, where people come to me because they need advice about their relationship and whether they should stay or go. I can't make up peoples minds and tell them what to do, but what does go through my mind, is that when we go into this realtionship, certainly a marriage we are going in it with our eyes open and knowing what is ahead. I look at my parents who are still together after 37 years and are happier now than they ever have.
However, having said that, you can't stay in a place of negativity and unhappiness. So if you feel its something that you can't salvage, you have to find a way to be strong, and move forward and say goodbye to your past, and know that you can achieve anything you wish. You can start again and pick up the pieces. I have had to do it, and it's daughting, but what you have to know, is that taking life a step at a time and not rushing forward with a snap decision you will be fine. You WILL survive. Yes it may be tough and difficult and heartbreaking but you CAN do it!
Time to be strong and stand up for what you want in life. Be happy and that is the most important thing.
Start with smiling today and have fun in whatever you do!
Have a great day
With love
Lisa xx